Some of you may have noticed that a couple weeks ago, I changed my interests page to not actually list my interests and therefore I changed my contact requirements too. I’d like to take some time to explain why that is.
After receiving the umpteenth unsuitable introductory email over the past few weeks, I sat down and wondered why this was happening. When mistakes occur and when they occur habitually, I always wonder what the common factor is and start problem-solving from there. In this case, the common factor was me. It would be easy to blame others for their failure to introduce themselves properly and indeed if my reply to you is to send you a link to my contact page in order to follow it correctly, then that is certainly your fault and does not get us off on the best start.
However, I do believe in taking responsibility for my part of the communication. So, I decided to take a look and see if there was anything I could communicate better on the website. Indeed there was. One particular element I find disagreeable are those that contact me with a long list of specific interests; a greedy shopping list of their wants. I’ve have always emphasised that any activity is a conduit for the D/s relationship, not a means to an end in themselves but maybe my listing of interests was mudding the waters.
Therefore, I have distilled my interests to a clearer point- my main interest being that I wish to only meet those that truly wish to explore their submissive side, those that are willing to be led and searching for a D/s relationship rather than ‘sessions’. This also includes those that take the time to introduce themselves to me properly.
Also, it is worth noting that I only take on those that I am interested in pursuing a D/s relationship with. So, if you do not provide me with more than the basic facts, how on earth am I going to feel moved one way or the other? I really do need to get a sense of who you are, not just read what you want from me. As a Dominant Woman looking for long-term tributed lifestyle arrangements, a cold introduction of basic facts and interests just leaves me cold as a result. I want to meet people with a desire, a curiosity, a personality, a nervousness, an excitement. I love it when I open up an introductory email and it piques my curiosity, makes me smile and delights my Dominant heart.
I am in a fortunate position that I am able to pick and choose my suitors and I will only choose those I feel are suitable. I do not take on suitors because I have to; I take on suitors because I enjoy genuine submission to me and because it is as emotionally rewarding to me as it is erotically thrilling.
I imagine that my being choosy is rather intimidating when contacting me but those that truly desire to meet with me as the Dominant Woman I am as an individual, rather than just someone who offers what they want, will find that I am actually a warm, nurturing and playful Dominant who will cherish and value their submission.
However, if you are looking for a service top or something that is merely transactional, then you will see a different side of me, one that is less kittenish and more having like a Tigress by the tail.
I hope that makes it clearer on my part.